I was watching “Touched by an Angel” this morning between Pilates and heading to the beach and listened to BB king quote one of the characters as saying …When you feel like giving up, that’s the time to continue Giving…
With family and friends that we Love this is easy, most of the time. It is most difficult when conflict arises and the people involved are feeling hurt, betrayed and a failure. Yet this is the most important time to continue showering Love…on yourself, those you are in conflict with. The flow of Love even from afar costs so little and yet the impact of its healing can radiate through the dimensions of time.
It is when we are small, scared and afraid, when our thoughts are the most limiting and we hold on to the pain that we create the scars and the past, that continues to affect our present lives. Turmoil and negative behavior patterns can begin to unfold and build in momentum, bring more dis-ease and instability. The alternative to being small is being Large, expanding and growing and letting go. Blessings and Releasing those we have been in conflict with removes the limitations and creates realms of potential. This potential can release the pain and begin the process of healing. Excitingly this can also help us to identify the negative patterns and beliefs that no longer serve our highest good and release those blocks from our lives.
Giving from afar can often be the safest option when you are in conflict. Saying a prayer for them, forgiving them, visualizing them surrounded by Love or seeing their essence as pure light all help in Giving to them without potentially exacerbating the situation. Doing the same for yourself is also a blessing, a self shower of Love is well worthwhile! Sometimes the drama of the conflict takes over all thought and action leaving little room for the flow of giving. Being RIGHT is not the most crucial aspect to healthy relationships. Being open to the flow… Giving and Receiving Love!… is critical. And when one or the other stops, or when being right takes precedence that is when the relationship reaches a tipping point.
Gary Chapman writes about The 5 Love languages.
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
These are the key ways you can be Giving effectively and making a difference in your relationships. Knowing your Love Language can change how you understand yourself and those around you and strengthen your connections. Someone close to you may already be showering you in Love but you may not yet recognize it as it is not your primary Love language.
Don’t shut down, keep the flow of giving and receiving flowing in all your relationships. Allow yourself to be open, honest and gentle, surround yourself with kindness and seek out those you feel inspired by. You do not have all the answers and you cannot read minds. Be true to who you are and allow the generosity of Giving Love to Rule the Day.