Dreaming of safely being a Woman!

I watched the News this morning and was horrified to learn yet again that Women had been Objectified and used to satisfy the “male” sexual lust on a large scale. This is not the first time, yet I sincerely hope it is the wake up call and we rise united Men and Women to call a stop to it on all levels!

I am referring to the incidents on New Year’s eve in Cologne where groups of men surrounded women isolating them, groping and even reportedly raping at least one women. How did we get to this point? In Vietnam,  bikini clad girls were assaulted, groped and clothes removed and the excuse given was their state of undress  “it’s THE GIRLS FAULT for wearing bikini.” This is not an unusual way of thinking…

As a women I am sick and tired of having to wonder if the way I dress will attract the wrong kind of attention. This way of thinking even implies that I believe the way I dress creates a responsibility for how men will behave. As a mother I want to raise my boys to see every women as a person, not a sexual object. I want them to fall in Love and have a beautiful connected relationship. I want them to see sex as a part of that, but realise that true connection with a person does not need to culminate in sex to be worthwhile. I want them to belong to brotherhood that supports women and is beyond seeing them as a conquest that elevates them in the eyes of society.

Where to begin?

Some of the thoughts and beliefs are so ingrained that people do not realise they are a part of the problem. Sweating the small stuff, I believe is the place to start. In Australia a Cricket player was fined for inappropriate comments to a female reporter, even the title of the article leaves some question as to whether it was sexist. Yet everyone I’ve spoken to, including men thought it was wrong…but maybe he was just trying to be funny.

See the Moment That Led a Cricket Player to Be Fined for Comments Considered ‘Sexist’

There are other ways to be funny and being sexist “funny” creates an environment where sexism, objectification and abuse is acceptable. It has got to stop. Just because we’ve grown up with it doesn’t make it right. Just because sexism is projected into our homes through TV shows (you could name just about any, one of my favs.. the Big Bang Theory yes it is funny, but all the men and at times the women objectify each other and the ultimate aim is sex!), also electronic games which are also distorted doesn’t make it right. They reflect the old, where we have come from, and we need to make conscious changes if we want the future to look different.

Our children and us deserve and need a more human world where it is safe to be born a woman and men can have fulfilling relationships with women that are not about sex, power and conquest. There is no need to objectify the opposite sex. Life can be interesting, intriguing and mind blowing, men and women can be friends and through unification our children will step into a world that is full of Peace, Wonder and Love. Small steps in yourt own world will make a difference.


About R Congues

Funny enough, this blog has become the expression of my hopes, dreams, love and experiences. It came about because of the situation I discovered I was in, and I am delighted to see it grow and heal into something different: I am a parent of two children, one who has experienced severe anxiety that became disabling in all aspects of their life. I am a teacher of Maths, Science and Religious Education with a Masters in Special Needs Education; I am a qualified Reiki master, with a love of art and creative experience. I am not a professional in the fields of psychology or medicine. (If you are interested in these perspectives there are many internet sites to use.) I am simply expressing my experience in my own unique way.
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2 Responses to Dreaming of safely being a Woman!

  1. Pingback: Dreaming of safely being a Woman! | Janet Congues

  2. Well said…I will go for Peace, Wonder and Love


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