The Blame Game

When things go wrong, when I’m are in pain,

There’s a sure fire way, to withdraw and get away.

If it’s all my fault, I suffer the added burdens of guilt and failure,

I should’ve known better, I’m smarter than that.

By blaming others, I can play victim and seek sympathy,

I can wallow in attention and people will make allowances.

That story goes on; the blaming becomes a habit,

I am stuck as a victim and I am miserable, unhappy.

When I take responsibility, a shift begins to happen,

I delve through my own crap and fix my misbeliefs.

I change my responses, I apologize for misunderstanding,

I maintain my boundaries, and shift back to others what is not mine.

The blame game is lame, it needs a shot in the head!

No one wins, everyone is miserable and we all stay the same.

So whilst it may not be your fault, you will have some responsibility,

And this is where the power lies, and where you can leap above buildings.

The growth through responsibility can be painful and humbling,

This is what we need to do now! to stop the world from crumbling.

Power to those who accept responsibility; Change themselves! Change the World!

They are our leaders, they create the path of renewal.

I want to change those two lines so the future is brighter,

So we can rise  like the sun and shine all the lighter…


Power to us who accept responsibility: Change ourselves! Change the World!

We are the leaders, we create the path of renewal.



About R Congues

Funny enough, this blog has become the expression of my hopes, dreams, love and experiences. It came about because of the situation I discovered I was in, and I am delighted to see it grow and heal into something different: I am a parent of two children, one who has experienced severe anxiety that became disabling in all aspects of their life. I am a teacher of Maths, Science and Religious Education with a Masters in Special Needs Education; I am a qualified Reiki master, with a love of art and creative experience. I am not a professional in the fields of psychology or medicine. (If you are interested in these perspectives there are many internet sites to use.) I am simply expressing my experience in my own unique way.
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2 Responses to The Blame Game

  1. maggies90 says:

    Were you writing about me??? Lol! You are so incredibly insightful – challenging and connecting. I know this is meant as a more serious reflection, but I cannot help but laugh at where I was a week or so ago and the conversations we had. So incredible I get to read this today.

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  2. R Congues says:

    No this is not about you, but as with all my writing it seems to intertwine with what I am experiencing. Sometimes the writing comes first! This is about me and probably every person I know, as it appears we have been habitualised into creating an us and them scenario in every perspective of life and it may be the perspective we need to change to create the space for Peace to grow in a more physical way.


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